POSITIVE COACHING SCRIPT - FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK
ABOUT POSITIVE COACHING SCRIPTS
The Positive Coaching Alliance (PCA) has developed Positive Coaching Scripts to help coaches introduce positive coaching principles to their teams. Scripts should not be memorized or recited word-for-word. Read through the script and then put the ideas into your own language, words you feel comfortable using when talking to your team.
NOTE- The script below is adapted from the Positive Coaching Alliance.
POSITIVE COACHING SCRIPT FOR FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK
Have you ever heard of the home court advantage? How often do you think a team wins on its home court? It turns out that teams win at home a lot more at home than when they are away. One reason for this is the emotional support of the crowd. It tends to lift our emotions and make us play better.
We want to be able to play our best all of the time. To play our best we have to keep our “Emotional Tanks” full. What is an emotional tank? Well it’s like a gas tank in a car. When it is full, we run well, but when it’s empty, we can’t go very far.
Why is it important that we keep each other’s emotional tank full? If our emotional tank is empty, we become negative, and we give up much easier. If our tanks are full, however, we are optimistic and are able to handle difficult situations. As the coach, I will do my best to help fill your emotional tanks. To have a really great season, I need your help.
Think about when you take a shot on goal and miss. What would someone say to make you feel worse? (“Nice job (sarcastically),” “You stink!”) See, that was easy. We call that draining the emotional tank. When you criticize or insult your teammates, you make them feel worse. That’s why we call it draining the Emotional Tank. I will try not to drain your emotional tank, but sometimes I will have to correct you to help you learn the game. I will try to do this in a way that keeps your Emotional Tank full.
What would someone say after you missed a shot. (“Get the next one”, “Shake it off!”) We call that filling the Emotional Tank. Here are some ways to fill the Emotional Tank:
-Tell your teammate when you see him do something well, or when you see him giving his maximum effort, even if he does not make the play.
-Tell him when you see him improving—This will make him want to continue trying hard to improve even more.
--Listen to your teammates—If your teammate has an idea he wants to share, you can fill his tank by listening to what he has to say. No one wants to be ignored.
Do you think it is important to say more positives than negatives? How many more positives should you say? I am going to try and shoot for five positives for every negative (correction). I don’t want you to worry about the exact number of positives you say, just remember, be as positive as you can.
If you are using positives you can help the coaches get to the “magic ratio” of 5 positives for each correction for each player.
This season is going to be an especially great season if we support each other and keep our Emotional Tanks full. With full tanks we will be off to the races, and there is no limit to what we can accomplish.
Now who can tell me some ways to fill each other’s Emotional Tanks?